A 'good' handshake, according to Vanderbilt, is 'elbow level, firm, and brief' (1972:241). Post says, The proper handshake 'is made briefly, but there should be a feeling of strength and warmth in the clasp' (1940:23). Bad handshakes include the bone crusher — the grip that makes the other person, especially a woman wearing rings, wince. Or a limp, damp handshake that seems to say, 'I am not really happy to meet you at all!' Or it may be the kind of straightarm shake that seems to hold the other person off or the octopus grip that draws you inexorably toward the shaker, who never seems to want to let go.